The price of perfectionism

Perfectionism, while often perceived as a virtue, can have profound and wide-ranging impacts on individuals across various aspects of their lives.

In our coaching practice we encounter perfectionism quite frequently, often forming an aspect of imposter syndrome (see link). It can often be an over-played strength associated with values like a desire for high standards or achievement, but it can have a negative impact.

Psychological wellbeing

Perfectionism is strongly linked to mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. The relentless pursuit of flawless performance can lead to chronic stress, feelings of inadequacy and even burnout. Individuals may constantly worry about making mistakes or falling short of their own impossibly high standards, leading to a cycle of negative thoughts and emotions.

Relationships

Perfectionism can strain relationships, both personal and professional. The need to control outcomes and avoid mistakes can make it difficult for perfectionists to delegate tasks or collaborate effectively with others. They may set unrealistic expectations for their partners, friends, or colleagues, leading to frustration and resentment on both sides. Perfectionism can also make it challenging to express vulnerability or accept imperfections in others, creating barriers to connection.

 Physical Health

The stress and anxiety associated with perfectionism can take a toll on physical health. Chronic stress has been linked to a range of health problems, including cardiovascular disease, digestive issues, and weakened immune function. Perfectionists may also engage in unhealthy coping mechanisms such as overeating, substance abuse, or self-harm in an attempt to manage their emotions or numb their feelings of inadequacy.

Performance

While perfectionism may initially drive individuals to achieve high levels of performance, it can ultimately become a barrier to productivity and success. The fear of failure or making mistakes can lead to procrastination, indecision, and paralysis, preventing individuals from taking risks or pursuing new opportunities. Perfectionists may also struggle to prioritise tasks effectively, spending disproportionate amounts of time on minor details while neglecting more important goals.

Self-development

Ironically, perfectionism can hinder personal growth and development. The relentless pursuit of perfect performance can lead individuals to avoid challenges or situations where they might fail, limiting their opportunities for learning and skill development. Perfectionists may also be reluctant to seek help or feedback from others, fearing that it will expose their shortcomings or undermine their sense of competence.

In summary, while perfectionism may seem to be driven by a desire for excellence and achievement, its impacts can be far-reaching and detrimental to overall wellbeing. Recognising the signs of perfectionism and taking steps to cultivate self-compassion, resilience, and healthy coping mechanisms can help individuals break free from its grip and lead more fulfilling and balanced lives.

To discuss how coaching can help tackle the impact of perfectionism, contact Sarah on e: sarah.jaggers@managingchange.org.uk